Being a fireman was all I ever wanted. But after the fire that took two of my buddies, I lost the desire to be a firefighter. It was all mixed up for me with what happened and all the bad memories. Your book helped me to learn how to heal myself and gave me back my life.
Nowadays, as a dyed-in-the-wool codependent, I understand that this is not all bad. I have great empathy, drive, which I use at work as a public defender, and with your guidance I’m using all this to finally help myself heal. Pretty good.
At this point I see things differently. I understand that my identity as an ACOA is more of an umbrella concept. I realize that what has been under that umbrella is trauma, lots of it. Your Self-Parenting approach to trauma and codependency has made a dramatic change in my life. I now know what I am healing from.
I now feel I have a roadmap to deal with my trauma from my childhood, trauma re-awakened during my deployment. Not a surprise, it resulted in my taking care of everyone but myself. This I now understand was my codependent reaction. Thank you!
I never knew that my codependency was really a strength; I always thought it was a problem. After having read Healing Trauma through Self-Parenting, I have come to understand that I am stronger than I thought.